I was discussing on the ETM board, I don't know if they will post it, I think hosts feel like we owe them because we are at their house. Right there, they lost their mitzvah points for that one. Then I went on to say...
Another one of my pet peeves is a bunch of, "why don't you do this?" "why don't you do that?" "Why don't you become a therapist instead of going to school for business?" "why don't you move?" I think people look stupid when they say these things. It should stand to reason that if it's my life, I've already thought of whether or not I want to do X, Y or Z long before you did. If not, then you are even more nosy. Tact, they have to teach people tact in the Jewish community.
The Curmudgeonly Israeli Giyoret says:
ReplyDeleteJust ignore them. One has to question the common sense of casual acquaintances who think that anyone who has the bull-headed independece to join the Jews out of free choice would blindly follow the advice of anyone.
You don't seem like a dishrag to me. Then again, it may be because you're blonde and blue-eyed. Yeah, that's it. Why don't you color your hair dark and wear brown-tinted contacts? Shall I part my hair behind? Do I dare to eat a peach?
As Bugs Bunny would say, "Whadda lotta maroons".
I know, but, I'm not used to this sort of thing. I mean yes, it happens sometimes in the goyisha world but, no one would take those people seriously and generally they are socially off for many other reasons.
ReplyDeleteI'm going to say it again. You've been at our house a number of times. We've NEVER treated you that way. We've never asked you ANYTHING. Anything we know about you is because you shared it on your own.
ReplyDeleteWell, I didn't say you did it. However, I've gotten a bunch of comments from people and I'm annoyed by it. Perhaps, it was your guests. I'm just not in the mood lately... I spent a Shabbos in Brooklyn this month and the rest I've spent sleeping in... eating and sleeping some more...
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