I got a comment or Email last week that I should take a look at Emes V'Emunah because I inspired a post. I've been busy with school, but I had a chance to look at it last night. A rather arrogant commenter decided he wanted to put me in my place.
Chaim1 states, "I dont understand this post at all. With all due respect to geirim and BT's why do you think an FFB should consider you. Or better put it the other way round why dont you consider your own kind. Why must you 'move up'. It is true in history Moses, (zimri!), Joshua, Samson, Boaz, David, Solomon and i suppose many others preferred Geirim. R Z Hacohen discusses it. But they were usually princesses or something similar. Geirim and BT's are 'lower grade' they cannot marry a cohen for instance. I am not sure how a married cohen becomes a BT. Does he divorce his wife or are they all considered 'challolim'. There is a 'caste' system in judaism. Oh I forgot R Amram Blau. there is some version in the gemoro that everyone runs to marry a giyores. Of course the main example of 'onoas devorim' is telling a ger what he wants was. i suppose a BT would be the same."
I don't understand your comment at all. With all due respect, why should a Jewish from birth man who is single/divorced and over 35 refuse to consider anyone? Why don't you clarify what is my own kind? You mean another convert or should I marry a WASP? Because first off, there aren't that many converted men out there. Furthermore, most of them aren't former WASP converts between the ages of 35 to 45. I'll have you know that I am a descendant of Betsy Ross. Also, it really wasn't that long ago in history that WASPs were automatically considered superior to Jews. So, why don't you explain to me how I would be moving up, simply by marrying someone who's parents raised them religious and they are Jewish. I see you are an FFB by the fact that you can't write a paragraph without making errors. I'll clue you in: you may not start a sentence with if, and, or but. You started one with but. 'challolim' should be followed by a question mark and not a period. Furthermore, "what he wants was"? I think you mean "what he once was."
Finally, who the hell said I am only open to an FFB? I am totally open to a BT. Also, I'm single never married and I would consider divorced with a kid in tow. However, I think it's crazy that the parents of and men over 35 should be so picky. They are worried about, "what people would say" if they married a convert or BT. They don't bother to consider that people would talk about it and then it would pass. Instead, they stay single and people talk about, "nebach, he's 38 and never married..." and THAT isn't going blow over like marrying a girl who isn't an FFB Bais Yaakov girl.