So, I'm looking through some old posts on some blogs that I follow for some ideas on potential blog posts and I came across one on Emes-ve-Emunah from about 6 months ago. I very much respect this rabbi blogger. He says much of what I say but he gets a better response. I suspect that it's because he's a man, and well, a rabbi. Nevertheless, in this post he was pointing out that people are quite quick to offer advice when they don't know all the ins and outs of a person's situation.
I find this myself. Repeatedly, people have suggested to me that I need to move. I, on the other hand, am not so sure that this will automatically fix the problem. Furthermore, I seriously doubt that someone else has been able to figure out solutions in my life that I am unable to figure out. After all, I'm the one that has the vested interest in it. So, I do spend a good deal of time trying to decide how I want to go about things.
The best, though, is when twenty-somethings who live at home with parents or other family start advising me. I know one girl told me that I could get a job for $50 an hour. I said, "so why don't you get a job for $50 an hour?" This past Shabbos I had a Shabbos pest, I mean guest, who amongst other things, tried to tell me get a job in this and move here and move there. I was wondering what kind of manners with which she was raised. The truth is that some of these girls think this is ok. It's really not. Furthermore, when people tell you, "that doesn't work for me," especially if you are in their home and they have been nice enough to you invite you when you were working up to asking if you could come, you should be respectful of the people who have invited you.