From the Yated: Frustrated in Far Rockaway.. "readers write" section on Page 6 and 116:
A woman writes in because she is seeing that unmarried teachers find their bashert and leave in the middle of the school year. I agree. I, myself, know of a situation where a girl got married and left in the middle of the school year. It seems that these girls are always marrying boys from Lakewood.
The solution that Frustrated in Far Rockaway sees is for the chosson to learn in her area until the school year ends and then go back to Lakewood. I would like to add another possiblity. Perhaps, they can postpone marriage until the end of the year.
I've already blogged about how I feel about kollel.
Frustrated in Far Rockaway, I applaud you for saying that children matter more than learning adults. Adults should be able to adapt without disrupting children's lives, not the other way around. I like another thing this woman says. She points out the friends and distractions in kollel. I'm so happy that someone besides me realizes that maybe these men are socializing sometimes rather that really sitting and learning ALLLLLLLLLL day.
This woman hopes that the rabbis would realize how disruptive this is for the kallahs students and begin to speak against it. As you can see, I agree with her wholeheartedly.