I see that my post about EJF has turned into a discussion of dating... which is likely my fault. However, as I just clicked off on two comments for the post that had to do with dating, I thought I would create a post for this discussion.
Background: I have tried SYAS, Frumster, and now JDate.
When I tried SYAS, I couldn't even get Shadchans to accept me into their network. They would respond with a pat response that they don't have anyone for me, therefore they will not accept me into their network. The influence members of the community is partly to blame for this. Many of my friends were telling me I was so schtark and I need a rabbi or a Yeshvish guy. In the end, I started to see how the yeshivish world looks down their nose at converts. So, should join SYAS again but, when I try it won't accept my payment. It says the addresses don't match. I've tried every possible combination they might have for my address and I have given up.
Frumster: I rejoined Frumster for a month since I'm off school and I have a little extra time. I find the men don't call or one called-grilled me about my conversion and my family and why are they dead and all that crap I post about and then he never called back to ask me out.
JDate:The reason why I tried JDate is that someone recently told me she got married. So, where did you meet him? JDate. He's observant? Yes.
I don't know... One of the profiles on there is someone I sorta know who I know is observant. He has since told me, he's not an actual member. I suspect that most of those profiles are men who don't pay. Oh, well, before I let my month expire, I should re-Email the guys I was interested in who do keep kosher and Shabbos and leave them my Email in case they ever do pay for a month. I should advise the same on my profile in case there is anyone intelligent enough to follow directions.
Hey, what is up with the sentence fragments that the men send to me? I do not reply to them. Frumster says I should reply to any messages because it's basic derech eretz and the person took the time to write to me. However, I feel that if they didn't take the time to form so much as ONE complete sentence, I don't owe them a reply-not even a pat response of disinterest. Besides which, such response usually causes them to argue. (which is when they, of course, suddenly speak English.)