I read and comment on the bulletin board over at End the Madness once in a while. Well, recently, I posted something about how I thought I was very reasonable as I am willing to go up to ten years older than myself and that since I look ten to fifteen years younger than I am that's really all I can do. Someone comes on saying that I should post my Email in case some parties are interested. Ok, so, I go with it and post it.
What do I get in my Email box? First off, the name doesn't match who asked me for my Email in the first place. Second, he tells me he can set me up with a guy 13 years older than me (doesn't say if he has kids), also that he (the email sender) has to meet me first, which I thought was a little strange. I said, "no, that's too old." The response to this was that the sages deemed women my age-34-as unfertile and therefore I should be greatful that he offered to help me. Also, I was told that my looking younger than my age.... that since the years caught up to him, they will catch up to me, too.
What the heck? Where do these men get off? This is why I don't try to get married anymore. I didn't even go to this man, he came to me from an offhanded comment on site to discuss dating, not a solitation for dates. These men think they are G-d's gift to women and G-d's green earth. In the secular world, men told me how beautiful I was and how young I looked but, hey they were just trying to sleep with me.
I stand by the statement I've made before, men do not want to get married. Furthermore, religious single men are hypocrits. They will only date that which is way out of their league and then they call themselves observant. Men are obligated to marry and have children, not women. When men spend years dating women out of their league, never giving great women a chance because they are always deciding they deserve better. Is it really going to kill men to consider women 5 to 10 years younger than themselves instead of trying to hold out for 15 to 20 years? Are men going to curl up and die if they marry a size 10 instead of a 2? The answer is no. They are looking for something to brag about marrying and not someone with which to be happy. I really think this is a big contribution to the divorce rate. If you marry someone based on how much you can brag to people about whom you've married then you are not likely to find someone who is compatible, will make you happy and support you emotionally for many years.